Impact of family conflict in love affairs through romeo and juliet by William Shakespeare

3-2- Shallow Love

Some characters fall in and out of love very quickly in "Romeo and Juliet." For example, Romeo is in "love" with Rosaline at the start of the play, but it is presented as an immature infatuation. Today, we might use the term «puppy love» to describe it. Romeo's love for Rosaline is shallow, and nobody really believes that it will last, including Friar Laurence:

Romeo: «Thou chides me oft for loving Rosaline.

Friar Laurence: For doting, not for loving, pupil mine».(Act Two, Scene Three)^12(*)

Similarly, Paris' love for Juliet is borne out of tradition, not passion. He has identified her as a good candidate for a wife and approaches her father to arrange the marriage. Although this was the tradition at the time, it also says something about

«Friar Laurence: On Thursday, sir? The time is very short.

Paris: My father Capulet will have it so;

And I am nothing slow to slack his haste.

Friar Laurence: You say you do not know the lady's mind:

Uneven is the course, I like it not.»

Paris: Immoderately she weeps for Tybalt's death,

And therefore have I little talked of love.

(Act Four, Scene One)»13(*)

Paris' staid, unpassionate attitude toward love. He even admits to Friar Laurence that in his haste to rush the wedding, he hasn't discussed it with his bride to be:

3-3 Friendly Love

Many of the friendships in the play are as sincere as Romeo and Juliet's love for one another. The best example of this is in Act Three, Scene One, where Mercutio and Romeo fight Tybalt. When Romeo attempts to bring peace, Mercutio fights back at Tybalt's slander of Romeo. Then, it is out of rage over Mercutio's death that Romeo pursues and kills Tybalt:

«Romeo: In triumph, and Mercutio slain!

Away to heaven, respective lenity,

And fire-eyed fury be my conduct now.

Now, Tybalt, take the «villain» back again

That late thou gives me, for Mercutio's soul

Is but a little way above our heads,

Staying for thine to keep him company.

Either thou or I, or both, must go with him.

(Act Three, Scene One)»^14(*)

It is out of friendly love for his companion that Romeo acts out.

3-4 Romantic Love

Then, of course, is romantic love, the classic idea of which is embodied in "Romeo and Juliet." In fact, maybe it is "Romeo and Juliet" that has influenced our definition of the concept. The characters are deeply infatuated with one another, so committed to being together that they defy their respective families.

We can say that Romeo and Juliet's love is fate; their love is given a cosmic significance, which suggests that the universe plays a role in the creation of deep romantic love. Despite their love being disallowed by the Capulet and Montague households, they inevitably and irresistibly find themselves drawn together.

«Juliet: Prodigious birth of love it is to me.That I must love a loathed enemy»^15(*)

Amongst the different loves described, we are dealing with the romantic one All in all, Shakespeare presents romantic love as a force of nature, so strong that it transcends expectations, tradition, and through the combined suicides of lovers who cannot live without one another life itself.

Apart from William Shakespeare, many Africans writers such as Florent Couao Zoti, Adetundji S.Ogundimu and Seydou Badian being in different countries have raised the same problem in their novels. The Malian writer (Seydou Badian) while making hi contribution to his friend the British put as an example of two generations fighting <<Under the storm<<Sous l'orage>>"in which he pointed out the notion of love and conflict lived by the characters.

Father Benfa's daughter loved Samou so much or a point where one cannot measure this degree of love. As proof she has demonstrated it through several manners. Despite his first warning about the young boys of whom he spoke without already knowing that among them Kany dreamed of love, of the future, saw a better future embellished by the presence of Samou and often we heard her singing the song of the oath that young women say when they have chosen through a poem written in 11 verses as follows:

«Oh may my head be between two swords

I will remain faithful to him.

The shepherd thinks of his star'

The prisoner remains faithful to the murmurs of the river,

The bird greets the sunrise,

The child laughs on the ancestor's lap,

And i think about him

That I sing with these words all the time.

To throw my hands tied

Deep in the water,

I will sing It 16(*)

This poem shows that Kany really loves Samou and would like to stay all her remains time with him. Kany was doing this without her father knowledge, because this could create a lot of consequences as quick as possible. The analysis of conflict and love in the novel under the storm shows that the custom in Africa requires that young people must always respect accept what adults say. While western school ,the arrival of the white allowed the creation of the school which trained the young generation the freedom of expression and this against the tradition because it leads young people to oppose their parent's decisions.

Despite the conflicts that exist between the old and the new generation in under the storm, communication remains essential to find solutions. So the message conveys is that Young people must respect people of the older generation, in exchange for which they must also respect these young people and ask their opinion especially when it's about their future.

To better understand my research work, I found necessary to investigate and find out the information's apart from the ones delivered by some scholars on the subject under study. During my investigation I established some open-ended and close- ended questions in order to get some wise people point 's view about the issue of conflicts and love seen that these two issues are still realities in our societies.

The open -ended questions are the first resumed in the following table with theirs corresponding answers.

Table 1

Numbers	questions	Answers
1	Why do some people choose the husband to their girls?	Because of tradition, to be well seen by your relatives, to maintain families relationship that their ancestors were sharing before, for families continuity from generation to generation. In one word is to promote African culture.
2	What are the causes of conflicts between families in context of love affairs?	Social rank, religion, ethnicity, conflict lasted the refusal of any parent of the girl who is supposed to be married according to her choice.
3	Why do some people are against to the relationship between their girls with any boy of certain families?	Because of the abusive repeated deaths between the two families in ancient times. Other take into account social status, religion and ethnic.
4	What are the impact of family conflicts in love affairs?	It leads total division between parents and children, children feel isolated, the stress, deception, anxiety and sometime to death.

Table 2

The close-ended question are secondly resumed in the following table with their corresponding answers

numbers	Questions	answers	Total	percentages
1	Is it good for a girl to choose herself her husband?	Yes	15	95%
		no	5	5%
2	Is it good to still live according to tradition?	yes	13	85%
		no	7	15%
3	Is forced marriage a good thing?	yes	5	5%
		no	15	95%

* ¹²Shakespeare, W (1957).Romeoand Juliet, Verona. Act 2 scene 3, p 48-49

* ¹³ Shakespeare, W (1957).Romeoand Juliet, Verona. Act 4 scene 1.

* ¹⁴ Shakespeare, W (1957).Romeoand Juliet, Verona. Act 3 scene 1. P 99-100

* ¹⁵ Shakespeare, W (1957).Romeoand Juliet, Verona. P 30

* ¹⁶Badian, S(1964).Sous l'orage, Bamako. P7-8.